The entire Soulmate concept has been misinterpreted to a point where people started believing that we need to go out in the streets and literally start looking for the one person who would magically make all our problems go away.
However, you need to realize that there is nothing wrong with you and stop looking at yourself as a damaged good. You don’t need fixing; as a matter of fact no one does. It’s completely wrong to think that our Soulmates have been placed on our path for that purpose.
The thing is, every time we look for the perfect one, we are actually looking for ourselves. People are our mirrors and we look for those peculiar things that resemble us.
But this is not how love works.
It’s a lot of pressure to put on a person when you expect them to heal your every wound, resolve all your past issues and sew together the torn fabric that your life is.
As a matter of fact, you two are probably feeling and expecting from each other the same things; if you are expecting them to fix you, they will want you to do the same thing for them. Have you ever been called the “fixer” in a relationship before? Have you ever felt the urge to actually fix someone other than yourself?
That’s exactly why you shouldn’t be looking for a soulmate to begin with. They may share all the same feelings you do, but they are not going to be the one who solves literally all of your problems.
Before you get into a new relationship expecting your brand new partner to fix you, you need to look inwards, face your demons and problems. Look for solutions yourself, because, trust me, no one can do a better job, than you, who know yourself best.
Once you have discovered who you really are and accepted all your flaws and virtues, your Soulmate will come. It will happen because Love attracts Love, and you have started loving yourself. You have cleared up the path for love to come find you, because there heavy fog of problems, old wounds and heavy emotions has been lifted.
In time, you will come to realize that living on a constant search for a fixer can be extremely draining and lonely because you will never find that person. You will go from one partner to another and keep getting your hear broken only because you had the wrong idea of what a Soulmate was.
On the other hand, your perfect match won’t mind all your flaws. Just the opposite, they are going to love them; every broken piece, every imperfection, every scar, every deep-buried wound…This man or a woman will be the reason for a fresh new start and a promising future. They will bring the best out of you, and let you know your true worth.
Expand your world and truly find your happiness deep within yourself. Your Soulmate is simply waiting for the perfect moment to come to show up in your life.
You will begin to understand this “mirror” of a person. They will show you all the goods life has to offer.